ok cupid sent me this message:

Happy Birthday!

are you still single...?

yes, and your stupid site isn't working!

i didn't think i would let a dating site effect my self-esteem, but come on! i'm not lame right? no way. this is stupid.

ok, b-day drinks.

-Tootie

I am a horrible person

If you let this thing get away from you for a couple of days, it is impossible to catch up! I just spent the last hour judging people on their looks alone. Here's the thing... these guys are all probably nice. They would all be dateable if you got to know them, but not everyone can make the team. So, I had to go through and try to weed out all the nice guys that aren't hot to me. The worst part on EHarmony is that you have to answer why you are closing the match. I don't want that guy to be told over and over again that "there just isn't any chemistry." So, I just checked the box that read "other" or "I'd rather not say." The problem with "I'd rather not say" is that it may read to him that I didn't choose him because his faults were just too great or so horrible that I can't put it into words. So, I went with the vague "other" or "age difference is too great" for the guys who were 10 years older than me.

One cute guy on OKCupid totally caught me! I asked him why he had a camera in every photo. He emailed me back and said "Shame on you! If you had read my profile, you would have read that I am a photographer." AND, I am from your home state too." I didn't know how to respond. I felt horrible. I judged him on his profile pics. He was a piece of meat to me. Oh well. I guess the true nature of ourselves comes out when online dating. Men are meat. That's just how I'll have to push forward. If I like the cut of meat, I just might stop to read about the meat's personality. I am a horrible person.

Oh and adding to my list of "types of people that like me"... Indian men. Old guys and Indian men. Or maybe, Indian men and old guys are the only guys forward enough to reach out to me. Whatever the case, all these other dudes should learn a lesson from these guys. You send out a 1000 ships... one of them will return eventually.

-Blair

Really, OK Cupid?

---Natalie

ftw email of the day

From my profile, displaying my witty sense of humor:

The first things people usually notice about me

My tail!

(No really, I have a tail, is that a problem?)

(Just kidding, I don't have a tail.)

Email of the day, for the win:

---Natalie

I am an old guy magnet.

So, I joined OK Cupid and presto! Natalie and Tootie are on to something with Ok Cupid. Completely different game now. I have basically spent money on Eharmony to have annoying messages from old dudes crowd my inbox. I know they mean well, but I want to say this to all older dudes out there in the world who don't get it... If you aren't some sort of celebrity or gorgeous silver fox, you shouldn't be asking girls out that are 20 years younger than you. Go find an older lady that has kids who is easily impressed by men standing beside their fancy cars in photos. I would say about 65% of guys on EHarmony have a photo posted with a fancy car. If you are reading this and you are a dude considering posting pics, DO NOT POST PICTURES OF YOU STANDING BESIDE YOUR CAR! These guys all appear to be going through a mid life crisis.

Speaking of a real mid-life crisis...

An older gentleman "winked" at me and wanted to talk to me. So I looked at his profile. It read "I am a 55 year old man, married with an 8 yr. old daughter who I am crazy about." (sounds like a winner so far) Interests: My wife has terminal cancer and I'd like to meet you. Well, as good as that offer was, I had to decline. Now I am sure that his story is a very sad one and there must be a reason that he is doing this, but seriously if you want to start dating someone maybe wait a bit. I love the honeymoon phase as much as anyone, but honeymoon phase isn't as romantic if you have to help your boyfriend grieve through his wife's tragic death from cancer. Just my thought. Maybe I am just a cold person though. I decided to not return the wink. I did have another 2 old guys email me. I was actually impressed that they knew how to email considering their age.

BUT then, I started to have some real cute guys start to email me from OK Cupid. What? There are cute dudes online? OK Cupid was free AND had way more dateable options. These guys were witty and creative types. None of them had photos with their car in the picture! That's huge! BUT OK Cupid was giving me the goods I wanted. One guy was wearing a monkey suit in his profile pic but I found it funny. I am wondering if Natalie or Tootie have seen the cute guy in the monkey suit? Well, I saved him and a few others. I think I will start chatting now. Oh, one guy told me he liked my bangs longer. I appreciated the fact that he gave me an honest opinion on my hair (not really). He was cute though, so we'll see about Mr. Bangs. I haven't responded to anyone yet. But maybe I will tonight! I have to admit that my heart is conflicted about all this, but I have to do this. This grand experiment will hopefully pay off when it teaches me important lessons in life. Maybe I'll learn more about myself. Or maybe I'll just come away knowing any man over 50 is my type and I happen to have a thing for men in monkey suits.

-Blair

Like Malcom Gladwell said, it only takes a blink to know...

Okay, so, remember the boy I told you about a couple posts ago? The boy who likes yoga and also likes to drink? So. We have emailed back and forth several times. What happens now? I am playing the waiting game, to see if he wants to meet up. I replied to his email today, so I'm waiting and seeing if he decides to write back, and suggest a coffee date.

Here are my thoughts though, on coffee dates: unnecessary. I am hoping that when I meet someone on here that is interesting, and some sort of good DSL connection with, that we can be on the same page and agree to a 5-minute pre-coffee date meeting.

I tried match.com before, and went on one coffee date. The moment I saw the guy I'd been e-flirting with in person, I knew I was not attracted to him. Then, we had to have this entire coffee date together. AGH. So I am thinking this time, I will say, Let's just meet up for a minute and be honest with each other about if we really feel like coffee is necessary. I quit match.com last time after that coffee date because I couldn't handle the idea of going to more hour-long coffee/conversation dates with dudes I wasn't attracted to.

I'll let you know what happens with WineBooze boy.

--Natalie

Boys get hot for improv

---Natalie